Stay at home mum vs. working mum

When I was working and studying midwifery, I constantly laughed and joked about how I couldn't wait to be on maternity leave so I wouldn't have to work! I guess I was living in lala land somewhat! You see I'm not the type of person who enjoys working. I'm a homebody. I love being at home comfortable in my own environment and doing what I like when I like. I also love being able to sit at the little cafe around the corner from home with my family chatting for hours and drinking coffee.

Being a nurse I worked the usual shifts for years; early, afternoon or nightshift. During different phases of my life, I favoured one shift over the other. For example when I first started nursing I loved a mix of lates and earlies because I could sleep in! When I was trying to get births to qualify as a midwife, I loved to do nightshift because everyone knows babies come into the world at night! Towards the end of my pregnancy late last year I liked to work early shifts so I could rise early for work then spend time with my family and get a good sleep come early evening. Regardless of the shift I was doing I constantly felt anxious about going to work. Who would I be working with? Was it crazy busy? Would I be under the pump? After talking to a lot of my nursing friends, I found this was a common worry. I put it down to staff shortages and everyone being so under pressure. Nursing and midwifery hands down would have to be one of the most stressful professions. 

I spent months celebrating the fact that I wouldn't have to work for years as I stayed home to raise our baby. Now 5 1/2months down the track I'm starting to crave work. I think this is for a number of reasons. Top of the list would be the loneliness, I miss having a sense of community and being around a group of women. I love nursing for that, being around women and the supportive environment that we create. Being at home with a baby is so lonely! I have an amazing husband, family, mothers group and friends but at the end of the day the majority of my time is spent alone with Oli. Another factor would be the feeling of accomplishment. In my working day I create a plan and the fulfilment of crossing things off, getting things done and getting positive feedback from my peers gives me a huge boost. With my little Oli at home I rarely get much done! This is why I have decided to study again. I've applied to study Child health nursing as I believe I have a lot to offer new mums.  Mainly because I'm in exactly the same position but also have experience as a nurse/midwife. The perfect mix. What are your thoughts on being a stay at home mum or working mum? There seems to be a lot of controversy regarding this topic. I would love to hear some other opinions. Xx